You have crazy insight. The way you perceive things is incredible. Sometimes I imagine things, objects, people, relations, connections just as a world of pure energy flows and singularities (what it actually really is, but not how we construct reality). I like what you do because all these wave patterns remind me of that. You help me see it, materialize it.
Thanks, Jean-Sébastien. I think you are right. I’m endlessly curious about what the unseeable, but intuitively palpable, might look like to us.
I’ve recently started to read a little more and have begun keeping a reading journal—one of the books I just finished has made an explanation for what you are describing based on brain physiology. It’s deeply exciting to me to see where the various areas of science takes us in the next several years, and how it meshes with what has always been known to be true in art and philosophy.
You are the most beautiful person I've ever encountered. It's almost as if you've in a way quantified the feels of so many. This is exactly how I wanted to spend my New Year's Day. You've brought joyful tears to my eyes. I wish you well. - S. B.
Thank you, your work is beautiful. I was just wondering what state of mind you were in when creating this or coming to these realisations and noting them down in diagrams, personally, what stage of a relationship were you at and state of mind? Are you in a relationship now? These questions are personal, but so is your work. Thank you for sharing. -T
Hello T. When I started making these diagrams last May I was wrestling with a waning romantic relationship that had taken a long time and a lot of energy to fully end. Translating my ideas into shapes and words helped me do what I felt was necessary, which was to break down my preconceptions of what ideas like “romantic”, “relationship”, and “end” meant to me. And to our society in general.
At any moment in my life I feel I am in numerous relationships, each at various stages impossible to pin to a place on a set narrative or timeline. The relationships I have with my family, my friends, my colleagues, my self—these are all channels that require my time and thought. The question of how much of these to split among them, and toward what end, is one I’ve examined closely in this project.
The conclusion I’ve drawn at this point in the work is that conventional thought likes to sort relationships into binaries: good/bad, strong/weak, male/female, romantic/non-romantic, available/unavailable, concurrent/finished, etc. The sole reliable indicator of the quality of a relationship—the only one that matters to me, anyway—is whether I and the person I am relating with are able to share happiness in the way we expect to, in the moment and into the foreseeable future.
My immensely gifted friends Chris Parker and Lola Kalman have helped me realize my dream of turning my diagrams about love into a series of six short videos. Chris and I shot and edited footage over the course of a year. Lola sent us recordings from her new home near Tel Aviv, while she was less than a month away from her due date. I couldn’t have done it without their patience and brilliance, and I can’t be more pleased to share our work with you.
You can view these videos at love.seebytouch.com/videos, where I’ll be adding them one a day starting Monday, July 22nd. They are best enjoyed with headphones. If you like them, please pass them on.