Thank you S.B. This note made my New Year’s Day.
Hello T. When I started making these diagrams last May I was wrestling with a waning romantic relationship that had taken a long time and a lot of energy to fully end. Translating my ideas into shapes and words helped me do what I felt was necessary, which was to break down my preconceptions of what ideas like “romantic”, “relationship”, and “end” meant to me. And to our society in general.
At any moment in my life I feel I am in numerous relationships, each at various stages impossible to pin to a place on a set narrative or timeline. The relationships I have with my family, my friends, my colleagues, my self—these are all channels that require my time and thought. The question of how much of these to split among them, and toward what end, is one I’ve examined closely in this project.
The conclusion I’ve drawn at this point in the work is that conventional thought likes to sort relationships into binaries: good/bad, strong/weak, male/female, romantic/non-romantic, available/unavailable, concurrent/finished, etc. The sole reliable indicator of the quality of a relationship—the only one that matters to me, anyway—is whether I and the person I am relating with are able to share happiness in the way we expect to, in the moment and into the foreseeable future.
Thank you for following along.
Thank you for seeing and reading it. Your words make this work worthwhile.