It’s hard to believe that I’ve kept at this project for two years. There have been numerous occasions where I thought I wouldn’t, or couldn’t continue—that I had nothing more to add, or that I’d tired of the restrictions I’d chosen for myself. But this project has been such a great relief to return to each time.
Now, at the two year mark, I’m curious where this work will take me next. I hope you will join me in finding out.
"The limbic brain is an emotional magnet. Attractors activate compatible aspects of relatedness and emotionality in others, leaving dormant the incompatible pebbles. We all embody an emotional force field that acts on the people we love, evoking the relationship attributes we know best. Our minds are in turn pulled by the emotional magnets of those close to us, transforming any landscape we happen to contemplate and painting it with the colors and textures they see."
"If psychotherapy exerts its healing touch through limbic connections, one wonders, why aren’t other attachments curative? If he were willing to put in the time—why couldn’t a spouse, friend, bartender, or bowling partner guide a lost soul into a healthier emotional world?
The matter is one of probability rather than destiny. A person who needs limbic revision possesses pathologic Attractors. Everyone who comes within range feels at least some of the unhappiness inherent in his world, and that intimation repels many potentially healthy partners. Those who stay often do so because they recognize a pattern from their own pasts. For them it is a siren song. Relatedness engenders a brand loyalty that beer companies would kill for: your own relationship style entices. Others are wearisome and, in short order, unpalatable. Thus people who bond share unspoken assumptions about how love works, and if the Attractors underlying those premises need changing, they are frequently the last people in the world who can help each other.”—Thomas Lewis, M. D., Fari Amini, M.D., and Richard Lannon, M.D., A General Theory of Love